"The ongoing and evolving relationship I maintain with those I love who have passed away is manifest in the everyday, often in unexpected and sudden ways. The spirits of those who have passed on weave themselves through my conversations, actions, words and songs as sources of inspiration and guidance, as real and extant as anything else.
![Today I went to Brighton for a day trip. I am a German exchange student staying in Eastbourne. As I am pretty much the same age as Arthur was at the time of his death - to be precise, I was the exact same age about two weeks ago - I thought it to be appropriate to visit his grave [ ] to pay my respects to him, you, Susie, Earl and the rest of your family. I did not know that there were also other family members of yours buried in the same place, and I found the simplicity and beauty of those graves really touching. Only in retrospect, a couple of hours later, did I start to have mixed feelings about the fact that I went there. What I first thought to be a simple act of respect and admiration now occurred to me as naive, a rather strange fan action, and almost disrespectful, as I did not know any of your passed family members personally. What do you feel about the fact that a complete stranger consciously visits the graves of your sons? Can we mourn someone we don‘t know? - The Red Hand Files](https://www.theredhandfiles.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/64.1683_ph_web-1.jpg)
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"We must refuse to tolerate supremacists in our midst because their beliefs do real and lasting harm, because their speech gives rise to terrible violence. But we must also refuse them because they are compromised. They cannot trust their own minds. And so cannot be trusted in turn."
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"What we probably had was a professional road racer who was underpaid so he could maintain his amateur status, competing on the track while wearing a U.S. team jersey, not a 7-Eleven jersey, pedaling a Huffy bicycle that was actually made by Serotta."